Love is the most emotionally-charged, mysterious word in our personal world. It is invisible, yet observable and concrete in the heart of the beloved. It insulates us from externals like: disappointment and the aging process. Love gives us a powerful energy and that’s why we love to be in love. There are two popular phrases involving love which need to be distinguished in order to clarify how to get love and keep it: Being in love and being a loving person.
Being in Love is a blend of two opposing forces: Primal, hot, animal urge and real, knowledgeable choice. Each one of us desires to be selected, but not as a consolation prize! If we are looking for romance, no one wants to be loved like a roommate or a caregiver. On the other hand, being a loving person holds an expanded list of traits like: Fulfilling a promise, giving selflessly and acting kindly. Loving does not have to be directed at a special someone; one can be loving to children in a classroom or patients in a nursing home.
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